Eulogy for Johanna
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NPC Grief monument, Rock Creek cemetery, Washington DC 1915 My mother, Johanna, died on Thursday, September 17, at the age of 84. She was the gentlest
[See the full post at: Eulogy for Johanna]My condolences Sir.
The loss of a parent is a particularly painful affair. Hopefully the sadness will pass soon and be replaced by fond joyous memories of your wonderful Mother.
Dear Roel,
There is no better thing you and Nicole could have done for your mother than to be there next to her when she needed you the most.
Hugs.
Illargi, my condolences for your loss, that was a very touching article. I can only imagine the pain your feeling.
I am so glad Nicole was there.
Very strangely, I was humming “What’ll I do” yesterday, as I repotted a cactus I has been certain was dead- but it started growing in spite of no water – with my 10 year old daughter. She asked what it was, and I sang it for her.
English needs some new words and phrases for this situation. I want to tell you I truly feel, and grieve, with you; but there really are no words to convey it; only phrases so worn out they have no impact.
Take care.
Dear Ilargi, I am very sorry. You and your mother have been in my thoughts these last months. I cared for my parents to their last breath. It is such labor of love and such a blessing for us and for them. Be gentle with yourself. It takes more time to grieve than we ever expect. Blessings to you and your family.
Tender but clear-eyed, and very moving, Illargi. This combination is a large part of why I read you frequently. I deeply appreciate your thoughts about allowing those who suffer to end their own lives. My mother took her own life 3 years ago. She was in a lot of pain for the last year and she had told her children that she wanted to end her life. I guess we thought she was exaggerating, but very few would say that without meaning it and my mother had never said anything of that kind. My sister and I both felt after her death that we should have honored what she said and taken her to Oregon where she could have died with those she wanted present and with dignity and a minimum of pain.
I hope your words will help others think about these issues with compassion. No easy answers here.I am so proud of you both, Ilargi and Nicole.
You have entered the suffering of another human, and remained there in body and heart, which is the true load-sharing, not superficial signals of condolence. Those are to relieve the “well-wisher” of any actual responsibility.
I know the difference, and I am truly appreciative when I see this form of realized human compassion
You will never fear your own deaths…Your care-giving of your mother by both you and Nicole, epitomizes each of you. I think you both have that wonderful human capacity of gluing people together with your love of individuals along with humanity. Your beautiful eulogy tells of your mother’s bravery and your knowledge that she would have given her live for any of those refugee children – you take after her as you must know.
If anything saves humanity as we go in to the dark days of societal collapse, it will be people like you and Nicole who have the best of human traits – caring and community cooperation.
My thoughts are with you as you mourn and heal from this hard time. I can still weep for my lost loved ones and when I do, it heals me more. I wish you those healing tears.
Hugs, Glennda
Sympathy for you Ilargi in your time of loss. Your responsible, kind, supportive behavior is the greatest demonstration of love.
Raul,
My deepest condolences and sympathies for your loss. I will keep you in my prayers during this difficult time.
May her soul rest in peace.
Peace and love to you all.
May her doctor at some point in the future have an epiphany about life, suffering and death and dignity.Condolences Illargi, all the best for you in the future.
The wheels come off a bit after ones mother passes over, time!May I offer my condolences Illargi; my parents spent the last 6 months of my father’s life in my home, where he died of a virulent form of leukemia. He had a young, progressive, female doctor who gave him the means to opt out; which he finally did.
The best to you going forward…Oh Roel – my tears are streaming… for you. She is safe now and pain free. There is continuity in consciousness. She is still with you and you will be reunited. Everything she taught you and the love she showed you, is still within you. I feel that I know after having met you and Nic in Florence (and Nicole again in Vancouver) and I love you both. You are showing us the heart of compassion and we will stand by you in sympathy and love. Continue to take your love of humanity to the people – it honors both you and your Mother. I know she is very proud of having a son that is willing to put his life at the service of others. It is what we are here to do… Service to Others. May you find comfort in the love of family and friends and know that your contribution to humanity does not go unheeded.
Peace.For Ilargi,
” Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.” Mary Elisabeth FryeMy condolences, Ilargi. Remember the good times and cherish them. Make her proud going forward.
While many may disagree, I believe you, Mom, and a whole lot of other people will meet up again, except the next time will be in much better circumstances. If I’m right in that, it will be a great day.My sympathies Ilargi.
A few years ago, I lost my mum after her lengthy illness. I know it changed me. You only get one mum, and it sounds like you had a truly good one.
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